“Do you see yourself as a leader?” I feel like this is supposed to be a simple “yes” or “no” answer, followed by a summarized explanation as to why. Unfortunately, I’m not blessed with that ability, at least, not when it comes to topics I feel deeply about.
A young leader in the making.
I vividly remember one of my daycare teachers saying to me, “You’re a leader. People will want to follow you one day.”
Confused, I asked, “But what if I don’t want people to follow me? Can’t I just do my own thing?”
Apparently, that’s why people follow you. You exist as your authentic self which attracts bees like honey.
The urge to lead.
As an adult, I an remember having that unquenchable urge to lead others, but I lacked the wisdom or experience to achieve it. I went about it all wrong – overbearing, critical, aggressive – all the ways you could possibly imagine.
It wasn’t until I became a parent, that I slowly began to realize leading is similar to parenthood, in that it’s not always the same. It’s a give and take relationship. Some days, you’re on top of the world and everyone is seeking your advice on one thing or another. Other days, it feels like no one wants to even talk to you.
It’s about guiding others – not telling what to do or where to go, but by taking their hand and walking with them until they decide to let go. Like parenting.
Long story short – yes, I see myself as a leader. I’m not afraid to try new things, to be disliked for using my voice, to stand out when everyone else wants to blend in. It’s a path that not many can walk. People seek my advice, and I enjoy providing it. It makes me feel complete – that my purpose is being fulfilled.
What are your thoughts on the matter?